Sunday
An European-Ukrainian Love Story
Believe it or not, but long-distance relationships are a real thing. And even more so, such stories often end with a wedding!
Once upon a time there was a girl Olia. She was smart and beautiful! And everything in her life was fine: she had a beloved husband and three healthy and clever children. She lived and enjoyed her life until it turned out that her husband was a man with a small letter “m”. He was tired, poor thing, to work for the good of his family and decided to live at his leisure and abandoned them. After a while, on advice of her friend, Olia registered on a dating site.
His name was Sandro and he lived in Croatia. He had long dreamed of a large and friendly family. Communication came easy, they seemed to know each other for a hundred years. On New Year's holidays, he came to her, showered children with gifts and surrounded them all with care and attention. Olia and Sandro could not get away from each other during these short holidays. It became clear – this is love! Several times he came to visit them and every time it was harder to part. When Sandro made an offer to Olia, children fully supported their mother's decision to move to another country. Now they are officially a Big Friendly Family. In Croatia, Sandro opened a new company, naming it by their names.
Here is a story not made up. Tales are real and even princes exist!
Friday
Dating Sites
Many people long and unsuccessfully try to meet their soulmate, but whether Cupid completely forgot about their existence, or ill fate has a grudge. So one could reason in such a way, sighing silently and go with the flow of life hoping for good luck. But! If we recall that our fate is in our hands, then boundless horizons open before us.
One of the most easily accessible and modern ways to build relationships is datin cs, losers and nerds, as well as dolls from Silicon Valley in the pursuit of easy money. But statistics is an inexorable thing, and it claims that 30 percent of all modern marriages are couples from the network. Many people are afraid to get acquainted online, believing that they will be mistaken for losers. That they will be considered as a product or a fat wallet. That dating online is only for one day, virtual dating does not allow you to get to know a person well. That dating on the Internet is a life-threatening scam. Well, that's up to you, but what does a dictionary say about prejudice? Prejudice is an opinion without thinking. Codswallop, in a word. After all, on the other side of the screen exactly the same people as you are sitting. Where else could people living in a modern and madly dynamic world get to know? In the subway or maybe in the library?
What are the chances of success and what to do? Reduce the level of anxiety and feel free to go in search of love. On a dating site, the chances increase a hundred times, because in any corner of our planet a soul mate can wait for you.
Thursday
Nearly one-fourth of young adults are looking for love through dating websites or apps.
This relatively new form of courtship can give you access to a large pool of potential partners. It also presents a unique set of challenges.
For example, you’ve probably heard about – or have personally experienced –one of the following reasons: He was shorter than his profile said he was, she looked different in person than she did in her photos, or he was talkative over text but it was like pulling teeth at dinner.
In other words, a person’s profile – and the messages sent before a date – might not capture who a person really is.
So if you’re honest and tell few lies, you think that others are being honest as well. If you’re looking for love but are lying to get it, there’s a good chance that you’ll think others are lying to you, too.
Therefore, telling little lies for love is normal, and we do it because it serves a purpose – not just because we can.
Let's meet?
IF finding true love were an exact science, we wouldn’t need matchmakers, singles bars or, of course, online dating services.Like job seekers who take the Myers-Briggs personality test to help steer them to suitable professions, we’d simply take a relationship test, whose results would identify our most compatible types of mates and rule out the frogs. Problem solved. Of course, Cosmopolitan magazine has been running pop psychology love quizzes “Which Bachelor Is Right for You?,” “Is He Naughty or Nice?” for decades, prompting young women the world over to assess how sexually or socially compatible they might be with their objects of desire. Now, a handful of dating Web sites are competing to impose some science, or at least some structure, on the quest for love by using different kinds of tests to winnow the selection process. In short, each of these sites is aiming to be the Netflix of love. Instead of using a proprietary algorithm to recommend movies you might enjoy, based on your past choices, however, these dating sites offer you a list of romantic candidates whose selection is based on proprietary analyses of personality characteristics or biological markers. At the end of the day, however, it may be that the success of such sites is attributable not so much to their proprietary methods as to their choosy, self-selected members who don’t want to wink at and woo the first person whose profile they read online. The sites attract cohorts of people interested in slowing down the online dating and mating process, in finding out more information about potential partners or in ruling out unlikely suitors before they graduate to the meet-and-greet stage. THE more advanced the partner prediction sites, the more they may actually serve a more old-fashioned role. The sites provide background details on a person’s family, education, aspirations, character, genetic traits and general health of the type that was once public information in farming or immigrant communities or even in hunter-gatherer societies. Indeed, at least from the point of view of evolutionary science, you’d be better off spending $50 and more likely to find a mate by using a premium dating site than by dropping $50 on drinks in the uncertain waters of singles bars.
The study found that 69 percent of people admit to doing the Google background check on their date. According to Schilling, "Performing background checks is a positive example of how Aussies are using technology and social media to help screen for potential date breakers.About 54 percent of people say they text in order to organize a time or place for a date, while 53 percent said they use texts to tell their date they had a great time. Millennials and women used texts the most, and 53 percent of women use texts to decline dates.
The study found that 52 percent of people prefer dates to be arranged “in person,” and a good 80 percent of them also said break-ups should be done face-to-face.
It’s really no surprise here, but four in five people say it’s easier to be more fun and witty online because you have time to craft the perfect response.
Try to Figure Out What They’re Looking For
This isn’t as cut and dry as it seems. While there are plenty of people who are indeed on Tinder and other platforms for the sake of finding relationships, they are also widely used for hook-ups and simply to further one’s own vanity. But generally, these people are easy to differentiate. If someone just wants sex they will probably suggest you either go to their place or they come to yours, so you can “Netflix and Chill,” which is just code for sex. A lot of people actually have “No hook-ups” in their bio, which gives you an idea that they’re looking for something a little more serious.
There are also a lot of people who are on these apps and sites just for attention. These people tend to match everyone just to feel better about themselves and try to get you to follow them on every social network they have a profile on. They will also never meet you, because they are simply on there for the ego boost and not to actually meet people.
Frankly, the best way to figure this out is to ask. Not right off the bat, but if you aren’t sure where things are going, you can ask in the midst of a conversation. If they respond that they want to meet new people and possibly find a relationship, that would be the perfect time to ask for a date.
Frankly, online dating can be a bit weird and awkward, especially for folks who didn’t grow up socializing on the internet. But if you’re single and looking to mix things up a little bit, give it a shot. After all, the worst that can happen is you have material with which to write articles about the do’s and dont’s of online dating.
Stay on the Date, At Least for a Little While
When you finally do meet in person, it’s important to be as polite as possible, even if they look nothing like the image you had in your head. I’ve literally shown up on a date and only found out when I got there that the person was weeks away from giving birth. I didn’t leave or sneak off “to the bathroom,” but I stayed and had about an hour-long conversation, not because I’m a saint, but because I could not imagine someone telling me to meet them and then just never showing up. Most importantly, you can never be worse off for simply knowing someone. Even if the date is terrible, you are meeting someone who you probably would never have met, and your life is that much richer.
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